If you’re thinking about whether or not you want to have a boyfriend coming into college or start a new relationship in your first year of college then keep reading..
There are two simple factors that you must take into consideration when trying to make this decision.
Having a boyfriend in college is definitely not easy, but it might be the right choice for you. It’s hard because you’re new to the experience, you’re new to the lifestyle, so you need to adjust and figure things out for yourself before you can begin to think about someone else.
1. Do you have the time?
Another thing that makes this even more complicated is having different schedules. Scheduling is so hard because if you want a boyfriend it’s usually so that you have someone that’s there for you when you need them and someone that’s always going to support you, but that doesn’t always work out. Sometimes you have classes Mondays and Wednesdays from 8 to 5 let’s say, but then he has work from 6 to 11 or so. When things like that happen there’s really no time to see each other or talk to each other and it kind of defeats the purpose of having a boyfriend if you never have someone to talk to and be there for you.
2. Are you willing to make sacrifices?
Another thing to take into consideration when thinking about having a boyfriend in college is the sacrifices you’re gonna have to make, that you’re both going to have to make. One of the biggest issues I’ve seen with couples in college is partying. Think for a second, how would you feel if your significant other went to a party without you there, while you were in a relationship. Would that be something you would be super cool with or would that maybe be an issue for you? Because if it’s an issue for you, chances are it’s an issue for them. As much as you might not want them to go to parties or go out with their friends all the time, that doesn’t mean that you don’t want to do those things too. So it’s going to suck when you realize you can’t do those things because you don’t want them to do them either.
There is absolutely so much to think about when determining whether or not you want to boyfriend in your first year of college or if you want to start off college already having a boyfriend. It’s tough because you need to think about whether or not you really have time for a boyfriend, if you’re willing to make sacrifices to have a working relationship.
No matter what the decision is, all that truely matters is that you’re happy. If you choose that you don’t want to have a boyfriend, it’s completely fine, there are so many college girls out there that are single and have fun and live their lives and it’s great. On the other hand there are those couples that you pass by on your way to class and it sucks because you don’t have that kind of relationship.
So if you do choose to have a boyfriend, that’s okay too as long as you’re happy. Many people do you make it work and many people meet in college and stay together for the rest of their lives. It’s also wonderful to have someone you can always count on and have someone to support you throughout your college journey, especially if it’s someone who’s going through the same experience as you.